Isn't it interesting that when we describe our growing love for another person, we say, "I'm falling in love"?

This is a translation from another person's blog entry from someone called Febrina who I do not personally know. Since her blog entry is in Indonesian and I find it rather interesting, I shall translate it =D Haha.

" From a MSN conversation:
A: Falling in love does not always make you feel great.
B: Of course not, how can you feel great when you "fall", it will always be painful.
A: Although that is not always true, I do agree with you, somehow.

B: It is not always true for everyone? Really?

To me, the philosophy of that falling in love will always hurt applies to everybody. As long as we "fall" there is "pain", whether we trip over a stone, fall from a tree, or even falling from a high-rise building, there is bound to pain. Yet, there are different degrees of pain.

Falling in love always causes pain? You mean the pain felt when a couple breaks up?

Well, somehow I feel that breaking up is not necessary to feel the pain that love brings. Falling in love doesn't always mean that two people will eventually be a couple. So feeling the pain does not always mean that you have to break up from being a couple before you feel the pain. There are many degrees of pain that can be felt, from the easy to the difficult level.

1st level of pain... In this level, the fall is more of a trip than a full-blown fall. Yeah, there will probably be bleeding, but the wound can be nursed to recovery pretty easily. This happens when you love somebody who does not reciprocate, and realise it early enough to withdraw before making any further advances. Relatively easy to manage, right?

2nd level of pain... This is when you fall in love with someone, who gives you positive signals, and you make advances, only to realise that you have just been toyed with. More painful isn't it? As if you have fallen from your bed while dreaming, and you wake up with an aching body such that you have to go for a massage before regaining yourself.

3rd level of pain... It's as if you have fallen from a starfruit tree after you have stolen a fruit. LOL. You might have a few fractures, but you have gotten what you have desired. Take it as if you have been together with the one whom you love, but has to undergo various obstacles and conflicts that occur between the both of you. Whether you feel neglected, envious, or restricted, all of this will cause you pain, but you have in your hand what you believe to be a miracle medicine.

4th level of pain... This is often assumed to be the only cause of pain from falling in love. Whatmore if it's not a clean and mutual break-up, but it is initiated by the other half, or it is caused by growing distances and larger differences that can no longer be resolved. Well, the essence that this is caused by a single party, and oh how painful it is, how terribly painful that tears fall endlessly. It's as if you fell from a roof (not a high one), and your bones are broken. You have to be taken to the hospital immediately to be treated.

Last level of pain... can be described as if you just fell from the top storey of a high rise building. Such pain is felt by married couples undergoing a divorce, perhaps? Several suffer from sever concussion, some are paralysed, and some even die. The pain from a divorce must really be overwhelming, and can never fully heal, whether in the individual's heart or in society's eyes.

So, although we know that pain is unavoidable when we fall in love, why do we still seek true love?

In my opinion, it is because we have to feel the pain before we can treasure the joy."

Credit: http://fabraina.multiply.com/journal/item/236/Jatuh_cinta_berjuta_sakitnya

A friend just gave me an insight that I have never realised myself. The conditions that I set for a boyfriend are actually conditions for hiring a maid! For example, 1. endure my temper, 2. do the housework, 3. shop with me without interrupting/complaining 4.cannot smoke 5.not a carnivore. haha. I have to change my requirements. Hmph. How about someone who earns enough to hire a maid for me?